Everyone has failed miserably at asking a girl out on a date. Many set themselves up for failure when trying to get a date with the girl of their dreams by having unrealistic goals. It is ultimately up to you and your quest to determine how you win the girl. You may have all the love in the world to give but if you can’t even make the right approach, you are pretty much going to end up with a blow-up doll and a woobie. Jump in with BadJojo to learn how to become a dating pro and get a date with the girl of your dreams.
Goal: Get a Date with the Girl of Your Dreams
You’re not alone in the quest to get a date with the girl of your dreams. Even the creepy guy living in the basement of his mother’s house wants to date a hot OnlyFans model. But one must always ask himself: “What do I have to offer?” It is unrealistic to expect your partner to be beautiful and successful if you are unemployed and don’t care about your appearance or personality.
In certain aspects, online dating is a different ballgame from meeting someone in person, and in other aspects, it is not. When it comes to persons you meet online, you usually know something about them before you actually get to meet them in person. You might have had pretty lengthy text or email exchanges, or you might have read a brief profile. Similarly, when you meet someone offline, you could know a lot about them beforehand if say a friend sets you up. You may learn very little if you go out with someone you recently met on a drunken night at a bar.
Unfortunately, there isn’t a solid trick to get the girl. With a little sensitivity, you’ll see and feel if she’s softened up to the idea of you being near her for more than an hour. However, you should also generally avoid waiting too long to ask her out, or else you run the risk of getting friend-zoned.
But what if you’ve known this girl for some time? What if your prospective girlfriend works for you or is a friend of yours? Then you should definitely take additional precautions and follow your instincts based on all the information you have about her.
Become a Dating Pro: Ultimate Guide
Practice these quick tips on how to get a date and then let’s get down to the nitty-gritty of how to get that elusive date with the girl of your dreams later on in this article:
- Get out there and be seen. Attend the right socials, round up the parties, and update your dating profiles on several dating apps.
- Practice asking girls out. This can get a bit expensive but you get to hone your dating powers and perhaps bump into the right one.
- Keep a little mystery to keep them interested.
- Take it slow. Don’t be afraid to say NO if you’re not feeling it.
- Set up fast first dates. No dinners. Go for coffee and set a timeline.
- Do your research. Read up on whatever minimal facts you have gathered about her. Where she’s from, her interests, etc.
- The element of surprise. Girls like little sweet surprises. Bring a small quirky token or take her to a speak-easy for drinks.
- Master the small talk. Small talk lets you both loosen up and gauge whether you are on the same wavelength.
There are rules to heed in the dating game. Whether you’re on the lookout for a keeper or just testing out the waters, there are plenty of ways to make yourself attractive to women and eventually find the girl of your dreams.
Paul Simon can explain the 50 ways to leave your lover but let’s lay down the basics and see how these 15 tricks to get a date with the girl of your dreams can work for you:
Get yourself clean.
According to one survey, 85% of unmarried women would rather date a well-dressed man than a wealthy one. It doesn’t mean a suit and tie. Wash your hair, smell good, clean your nails, trim your facial hair, and consciously wear something understated but stylish. Toss in an accessory that might catch her eye and remember you.
Work on who you are more than how you look.
According to a 2014 study, a person with favorable personality traits is far more appealing to the other sex. Don’t be dull. Crank your brain cells and polish that tarnished side of your character. Exude positivity but be authentic. No one wants to spend their time listening to you whine and complain.
Muscles are not a requirement.
Sure women may drool at the sight of big guns, but studies have shown that buffed bodies are not the secret to long-term relationships.
Braggarts always lose.
You may drive a fast car, have a collection of designer shoes, or perhaps can afford a swanky pad. Keep it on the down-low. Wearing your wallet on your sleeve is never endearing.
Know when to be the old-fashioned gentleman around her.
Read the book and do it right. Open doors, compliment her looks, and have a handkerchief ready at all times. Men always pay on the first date and send flowers just because.
Skip the mind games.
You’re too old for such things. If you’re sincerely interested in her and want a second date, let her know. A good follow-through is key to this. Ask her out casually perhaps 4 days after? She may decline but endure with confidence and don’t be afraid to ask when it is most convenient for her. If you must cancel a date, re-schedule as soon as possible. Consistency is how you conquer.
If you’ve had a change of heart, gently let go.
Maybe the spark wasn’t there on the first 2 dates. There is no need to be crass or rude about it. Always be sensitive and kind. Word goes around and good word of mouth might be your saving grace in finding the right one down the road.
Secure your social media.
Single women usually check out their dates on Facebook and Instagram. Clean house and get rid of anything that might not be pleasing to the eyes or may be cause for a long discussion.
Let her know you see her.
Giving a girl an eyeful is one of the trickiest ways to get a girl to notice you. Don’t give her the creepy look. Gaze with amazement, not with lust. If she throws back a nod or a smile, you’re good to go!
Find her funny bone.
A funny man is just as handsome. A girl is most likely to give her digits to a guy who can make her laugh. Don’t be too serious. Keep things light and play it simple.
Be interested.
Women like to talk about themselves. Men don’t. The best way to handle this is to make her feel connected to you by asking questions. Encourage her to open up and feel relaxed around you. The goal is to know what NOT to say on your first few dates.
Flattery gets you far.
Plain flattery is only good on the first try. Don’t overuse it. Keep her intrigued by surprising her with flattery that goes beyond skin deep. This means you’re paying close attention and are not fixated on her looks alone.
Don’t be a mind reader. Ask.
Body language can be confusing. Sometimes mixed signals can get you into trouble. If you’re not sure she’s leaning in for a kiss, ask. If she doesn’t move away, go for the kill.
Don’t be too pushy with sex.
It’s not about how quickly you can get a girl in bed. It’s how you can sustain her to want you. Most of the time it is all about that feeling of closeness and having the right connection that makes a relationship intimate. Sexting is not how you seduce the girl of your dreams. Stay classy.
Communication is key.
From the get-go, you should know the best way to get through to her.
Does she like phone calls more than texts? Does she like emails?
Do emojis irritate her? Does she prefer to get a text before you ring her? Does she like getting drunk dialed? Find out what works for her as this is how many relationships fail to endure.
There is no easy way around the dating game. We all need to bring something to the table that is worth the other’s time and attention. Always remember to bring high-value behavior if you want a high-value girl.
Truth is, you are bound to get rejected more than you may end up with a date. However, you turn into a beast once you stop fearing rejection and allow your actual self to show. Rejection is most severe and occurs when you are at your most attractive. Women are never harsh with decent guys. But that doesn’t always mean they will fuck them. The more you can take rejections and the less you care about losing the game – the more attractive you become.
Stay tuned for more BadJojo’s dating advice and guides!